The Wrong side of 25

Why is there so much pressure for the girl child to settle? Whoever put the "best before" tag on every baby girl upon birth must have been crazy. For everything happens in the fullness of time; GOD 's TIME. Whatever happened to the good old days,when guys were sincere and love was forever,when i luv u was decree and cheating was a taboo. Now the world is busy pushing 4 loveless,rushed marriages which are filled with lies,affairs,diseases and abuse. Where did the days wer marriage was sacred,when wife/ husband was all ecompassing. Now the gold rush is to avoid being sturck at the wrong side of 25

Right to information is weapon for women empowerment

March is predominantly a “women’s month” with events ranging from World Day of the Fight against Sexual Exploitation which falls on March 4, to the International Women’s Day on March 8. Sunday View with Chido Sibalo It is important for the world to see if Zimbabwe is not only a signatory to various protocols and declarations, but if it is also adhering to all of them, especially those pertaining to the right to information. Zimbabwe has also been a signatory to a number of instruments that encouraged gender equality in all institutions including the media. For starters; Zimbabwe, like all other African countries reached the end of the time line target for the Sadc Protocol on Gender and Development. This protocol was urging all media and decision making bodies in the region to achieve gender parity by 2015 and in line with the Millennium Development Goal 3 (MDG3), which encouraged the promotion of gender equality and women empowerment. The situation on the ground however shows that there are still wider gender inequalities with a few women accessing the right and relevant information and holding decision making positions in the media. While some might claim that issues of patriarchy, structures and attitudes of society are an old cliché and a tired jingle, it is clear that they still play a pivotal role and have an invisible hand in giving women second class citizenship when it comes to the right to give and receive information, access to resources and power. Generally when it comes to decision-making bodies, first preference is given to men and where women are given an opportunity to lead, it is not in a deliberate effort but just to satisfy an existing statutory instrument or policy. In instances where both sexes cry for freedom of expression, it is puzzling that some men and women in the same struggle actually suppress women and fail to make room for them in their programmes, activities, politics and media. Even though our very own media laws are neutral, they are not gender sensitive to the specific needs of women. Women face many constraints in their quest to access the right to information such as access to resources; this includes the media products too. Over the years it has become evident that it is men who occupy most decision-making posts; the media included. Women have limited access to the public sphere — sports/social clubs and pubs — where critical issues are discussed. It’s definitely still a man’s world and not usually a women-friendly zone. Where women fit they are either labelled deviant by society or termed “one of the boys”. Gender roles also keep women in the home, restricting their latitudinal movement. Is it a coincidence that news bulletin slots of 1pm, 6pm and 8pm happen during socially constricted lunch and supper times when the man is relaxed and ready for his meal and the women are in the kitchen, missing out on the global conversations. Not all is negative as government and other civil bodies have worked hard in making some notable differences in recent years. In the past Zimbabwean laws were discriminatory to the girl child. The Marriage Act for example sanctioned the girl to be ripe for marriage at 16 years and the boy at 18 years. However, under the new Constitution, Section 78; under marriage rights stipulates that every person who has attained 18 years has the right to have a family. Previously such early marriages used to block all access to further education and attainment of any skills in this never-ending cyber technological world where most worlds’ discourse is now available on the internet.

The best in me

You came into my life when all hope in love was lost. I had given up on ever being found by my rib but God had other plans. Like a fairy tale, you became my Prince in shining armour, rocked my world and brought rays of light in my life. Like a right shoe size fit, You filled those exert holes and gaps that were left behind by your predecessors. You changed the story of my life and although the script remained the same the cast had certainly changed for the better. My story was different, my story was better From being Lonely i was now complete From Heartbroken I became loved From a reject I became chosen... I felt like a princess in a little kingdom called your heart, Somehow everything started making sense; From God's promises to the worldly theories of destiny and fate. I was now part of history, a history you and I were creating daily. Each day I woke up with a smile on my face and joy in my heart, an unexplainable glow that noone could decode. I felt satisfied, had something to look forward to but above all I had HOPE, a hope in a future unknown to the world but certain in Our world. Now I turn back and wonder where it all went wrong. How you slipped away without saying goodbye. All I have left are memories and wounds, wounds deeper than before. Questions which your words "I am sorry Valerie" do not quench or answer. Daily I cry in my own heart and im my own haven. Sadness hidden beneath my smile. A faith shattered, a heart broken and a tale abruptly stopped. No one will ever understand or know the pain of losing you. To the world you are one of the billions but to me you were my ONE. The ONE who brought out the BEST IN ME...

Obey God Even When It Doesn't Make Sense

Fear says your situation is permanent. Logic says it's impossible. Facts say it doesn't make sense. Science says follow logic and consider the facts. Maths say it doesn’t add up. Time says it’s too late. Age says you’re too young or too old. Education says you’re not qualified. Experience says you’re a novice. People say it’s never been done before. The past says check your history. Scars say you’re about to get hurt again. Comfort says it is really not worth the trouble? The future says you don’t belong here. The pocket says I can’t afford it. But faith says, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13. "We walk by faith, not by sight" 2 Corinthians 5:7. Feed your faith and all the other negative voices will starve to death. *stolen*

If God is for me who can be against me?

If you compare yourself with other people u become vain or bitter for there is always a greater and lesser person than you. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career however humble. It is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time..... What does mans’ opinion matter against Gods determination? If God be for you, who can be against you? We must always be careful to not make permanent decisions based on temporary situations. Remember: “This, too, shall pass.” John 10:10 the thief does not come except to steal, and to kill and to destroy. I have come that they may have life and that they may have it more abundantly. Jesus said it; I believe it and that settles it.

Wise words

It is easier to live through someone else than to complete yourself. The freedom to lead and plan your own life is frightening if you have never faced it before. It is frightening when a woman finally realizes that there is no answer to the question 'who am I' except the voice inside herself. Stop relying on people NOW ! We are so accustomed to the comforts of "I cannot", "I do not want to" and "it is too difficult" that we forget to realize when we stop doing things for ourselves and expect others to dance around us, we are not achieving greatness. We have made ourselves weak. If you learn to really sit with loneliness and embrace it for the gift that it is…an opportunity to get to know YOU, to learn how strong you really are, to depend on no one but YOU for your happiness…you will realize that a little loneliness goes a LONG way in creating a richer, deeper, more vibrant and colorful YOU.

Make time for God

Make time for God! This occurred to me this morning as i was taking a bath i asked myself Chidoval when was the last time u devoted time for God, i said Tuesday at BSF then i realised that besides the routine prayers i hadn't, i quickly justified that well i am busy, Jesus understands i have different schedules but a little voice said girl "God made time for you, as he was going round the world waking people up, u were one of the chosen ones, its not because vasina kumuka weren't great but he saw me worthy" so today make time for God because he made time for u.

Needed to say this

Right shoe; Wrong foot. At times it takes the strength to leave a bad job, friendship, affair to unleash the greatness in you.Be careful of the people you surround yourself with; they might dim your bright future

Food for thought

Flowers are like people, it is often the right ones under your nose that you fail to appreciate. Dreams are like stars, You may not reach them, but they can still lead to your destiny. Stay in a relatiönship for the right REASÖNS not for THAT reason! The best boyfriend you will have isn't the best looking,funniest,or e richest. Its the 1 who makes u feel gorgeous,hilarious,and like a million dollars..He makes u know u liked and adored ... So don't love e person who enjoys being w u,love e person who really suffers without u,tears dry....

Miracle

When you expect your miracle..expect your answer Don't get discouraged if you don't immediately get a job when you apply for it or when a relationship that you thought would result in a marriage comes to an end. Instead start being thankful for the protection you receive and be secure in your knowledge that the best job, man or breakthrough is on its way.

Ex Factor

"Psychology claims that If two past lovers can remain just friends, its either they are still in love, or never were.."

Male species

"A guy is a boy by birth, a man by age, but a gentleman by choice"

Faith

Bhazi nyangwe rikazara sei mukaita pressure, driver anotomira zvake panze asingambovhunduke coz anoziva kuti rake seat harina anobata... zvingaome sei, chake chigaro hachibatwe... Nhasi be rest assured kuti your seat is available at the King's table... rega vanoita dzungu vaite... vanowanza siya vakadaro... vanoti aaahhh iwe wasara siya vakadaro... vanoita pressure yekuda kuwana hupfumi nechitsotsi nemishonga siya vakadaro... AS FOR YOU, GOD HAS KEPT YOUR SEAT VACANT, WAITING FOR U... A time is coming and now is the time yekuti vaive vemberi vachava veshure... Mwari ari kuzokusimudza to an extent yekuti your enemies will not have option but kutokuomberera so.. Mwari ari kukuitirawo mwaka uno... uri mwana waMwari iwe... zvako zvinoita chete.. CHAKO CHIGARO CHIRIPO... zvaukagadzirirwa nedenga hazvisati zvamboonekwa before... zvichashamisa vavengi vako... "But as it is written, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him." - 1 Corinthians 2:9

The complexities of Life!

In a race between a lion and a zebra, many a times a zebra wins.because, a lion runs for food and a zebra for life.Remember, 'purpose is more important than need'

life

The Joy of the Lord is my strength- Nehemiah 8:10

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate, Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually who are you not to be? We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same *Marianne Williamson*

Life after the I do's

Have you ever wondered what really happens after the honey moon, or how suddenly someone use to make your heart melt with joy now is ordinary

Unforgetable

Unequally Yoked

Its always a problem, when a big brained woman with foresight,vision, goals in life and standards to maintain meets a shallow minded man with no purpose,hussels through life and lives for now!!

Just in Case