The Wrong side of 25

Why is there so much pressure for the girl child to settle? Whoever put the "best before" tag on every baby girl upon birth must have been crazy. For everything happens in the fullness of time; GOD 's TIME. Whatever happened to the good old days,when guys were sincere and love was forever,when i luv u was decree and cheating was a taboo. Now the world is busy pushing 4 loveless,rushed marriages which are filled with lies,affairs,diseases and abuse. Where did the days wer marriage was sacred,when wife/ husband was all ecompassing. Now the gold rush is to avoid being sturck at the wrong side of 25

Right to information is weapon for women empowerment

March is predominantly a “women’s month” with events ranging from World Day of the Fight against Sexual Exploitation which falls on March 4, to the International Women’s Day on March 8. Sunday View with Chido Sibalo It is important for the world to see if Zimbabwe is not only a signatory to various protocols and declarations, but if it is also adhering to all of them, especially those pertaining to the right to information. Zimbabwe has also been a signatory to a number of instruments that encouraged gender equality in all institutions including the media. For starters; Zimbabwe, like all other African countries reached the end of the time line target for the Sadc Protocol on Gender and Development. This protocol was urging all media and decision making bodies in the region to achieve gender parity by 2015 and in line with the Millennium Development Goal 3 (MDG3), which encouraged the promotion of gender equality and women empowerment. The situation on the ground however shows that there are still wider gender inequalities with a few women accessing the right and relevant information and holding decision making positions in the media. While some might claim that issues of patriarchy, structures and attitudes of society are an old cliché and a tired jingle, it is clear that they still play a pivotal role and have an invisible hand in giving women second class citizenship when it comes to the right to give and receive information, access to resources and power. Generally when it comes to decision-making bodies, first preference is given to men and where women are given an opportunity to lead, it is not in a deliberate effort but just to satisfy an existing statutory instrument or policy. In instances where both sexes cry for freedom of expression, it is puzzling that some men and women in the same struggle actually suppress women and fail to make room for them in their programmes, activities, politics and media. Even though our very own media laws are neutral, they are not gender sensitive to the specific needs of women. Women face many constraints in their quest to access the right to information such as access to resources; this includes the media products too. Over the years it has become evident that it is men who occupy most decision-making posts; the media included. Women have limited access to the public sphere — sports/social clubs and pubs — where critical issues are discussed. It’s definitely still a man’s world and not usually a women-friendly zone. Where women fit they are either labelled deviant by society or termed “one of the boys”. Gender roles also keep women in the home, restricting their latitudinal movement. Is it a coincidence that news bulletin slots of 1pm, 6pm and 8pm happen during socially constricted lunch and supper times when the man is relaxed and ready for his meal and the women are in the kitchen, missing out on the global conversations. Not all is negative as government and other civil bodies have worked hard in making some notable differences in recent years. In the past Zimbabwean laws were discriminatory to the girl child. The Marriage Act for example sanctioned the girl to be ripe for marriage at 16 years and the boy at 18 years. However, under the new Constitution, Section 78; under marriage rights stipulates that every person who has attained 18 years has the right to have a family. Previously such early marriages used to block all access to further education and attainment of any skills in this never-ending cyber technological world where most worlds’ discourse is now available on the internet.

The best in me

You came into my life when all hope in love was lost. I had given up on ever being found by my rib but God had other plans. Like a fairy tale, you became my Prince in shining armour, rocked my world and brought rays of light in my life. Like a right shoe size fit, You filled those exert holes and gaps that were left behind by your predecessors. You changed the story of my life and although the script remained the same the cast had certainly changed for the better. My story was different, my story was better From being Lonely i was now complete From Heartbroken I became loved From a reject I became chosen... I felt like a princess in a little kingdom called your heart, Somehow everything started making sense; From God's promises to the worldly theories of destiny and fate. I was now part of history, a history you and I were creating daily. Each day I woke up with a smile on my face and joy in my heart, an unexplainable glow that noone could decode. I felt satisfied, had something to look forward to but above all I had HOPE, a hope in a future unknown to the world but certain in Our world. Now I turn back and wonder where it all went wrong. How you slipped away without saying goodbye. All I have left are memories and wounds, wounds deeper than before. Questions which your words "I am sorry Valerie" do not quench or answer. Daily I cry in my own heart and im my own haven. Sadness hidden beneath my smile. A faith shattered, a heart broken and a tale abruptly stopped. No one will ever understand or know the pain of losing you. To the world you are one of the billions but to me you were my ONE. The ONE who brought out the BEST IN ME...